Three’s a Crowd

Before wedding dress shopping I read countless tips on what to take, who to bring, what to wear, etc. The most common tip being don’t take too many people.

I thought this was a silly rule and only applicable to people who have rude friends or family. I’ve seen the episodes of Say Yes to the Dress where the bride comes out and her friends and family shoot her down and say the dress is ugly and it was her favorite dress and she’s crying and the friends are saying they’re just trying to be honest.

I knew that wasn’t going to happen to me, my friends and family are wonderful, beautiful people who constantly lift me up. And, I was right, not one mean comment was uttered when I was trying on dresses, everybody commented on how stunning I looked and how each dress was jaw dropping.

Despite this, I have come to believe you should only take 1-2 people with you when you go dress shopping and here’s why —

There’s so much pressure and expectations that come with dress shopping. When I tried on my first dress and walked out of the dressing room – my friends and family told me it was beautiful, stunning, amazing and then they asked excitedly what I thought? And that was the problem, I had been in this dress maybe 90 seconds, I didn’t have time to process my feelings yet, I felt pressured to give them an answer, to provide them with information I didn’t have. Feeling that pressure made my thoughts more scattered and I wasn’t able to settle and feel.

This is of no fault of the lovely amazing people I took – They did everything right and made me feel very special I was just overwhelmed by their presence.

When it was time for me to buy my dress, it was just my mom and I. We went back and I tried on the one and when I walked out there was no pressure, no expectations, because it was just me and her. She can look at me and know what I’m feeling – I didn’t have to voice it. In those silent moments I was able to collect my thoughts, imagine my wedding day, and know I had found the dress.

There are so many rules and tips when you are planning a wedding, some of them I have chosen to ignore, but this is one I believe brides should really think about. Not taking certain people doesn’t mean you don’t love them or that you don’t want them to be a part of this experience. You’re just creating the best experience for yourself – and nobody is going to fight you on that.

Comments (2)

  • Call me old-fashioned but I think this is a special time for a daughter and her mom. Glad to hear that it was just the two of you in the end. And I can’t wait to see it! You will look beautiful in it because you are a beautiful person, inside and out.

    • Thank you so much! It was a very special time – and I am so happy it was with just my mom.


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